You have found this site in a search to heal your marriage. Your marriage is not where it should or could be. Perhaps it is even headed for divorce. You may be in great pain, feeling the constant agony of a crippled relationship. It may be that you see the writing on the wall, or perhaps your spouse has even said it: your marriage is headed straight into the ground! You may have given up all hope. Maybe you are terrified, but still hopeful.
I am here to tell you that it can change. In fact, I am here to tell you that your marriage can not only be restored, but can actually become the marriage of your dreams! You really are married to your soul-mate!
Do You Recognize the 9 Early Warning Signs of Pending Marital Disaster?
Let’s Take A Quick Quiz About Your Marriage Answer the questions below to see where things are right now.
If you checked any "Yes"? responses to the above questions, it is time to really look at what is going on in your relationship.
If You Don’t Act Now, You’ll Regret It Later!
It’s just too easy to do nothing. And then another day, week, month, then year passes with only worsening issues. Or a letter from an attorney arrives!
Let’s face it: we live in a culture that constantly calls us away from our marriage. In fact, we live in a society that not only approves of divorce, it makes it easy to get.
But together, you and I can work to change that, saving one marriage at a time, starting with yours! Actually, it will be you, me, and God making that change possible.
Listen To A Personal Message from Lee Baucom, founder of Save Your Christian Marriage
Did you know that the rate of divorce among Christians is actually HIGHER than the general population? I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear this! We are a people called to be faithful, to be forgiving, to be loving. . . and we end marriages more often than the general public. That trend must stop! Let’s agree to change this fact, you and I working together to renew your marriage.
Divorce and broken marriages is not God’s plan. God’s plan was for marriage to be a lifetime. As I’m sure you have heard often, in Genesis 2:24, God tells us that "for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife. And the two people will become one body."? When we become one body, it is a forever thing.
Where is your relationship? Is it where you want it to be? Is it where your spouse wants it to be? Is it where God wants it to be?
OK, I have my prejudices. Obviously, 1) isn’t working. You have already decided against that, the proof being that you found your way to this website! And 2) isn’t much of an option for those of us who believe God’s Word. So, the best answer is 3), accomplished of course, with God’s help.
If you are like most people, you have tried to make changes, tried to figure things out, and maybe even saw a little improvement here and there. But things just seem to either drift back to the way they were or get worse!
writes Susan Johnson of Colorado. She says:
"I was at the end of the line with my marriage! First, we neglected our marriage for years. It just withered away. Then one day, I got a wake-up call! My husband had cheated on me.
I didn’t know where to turn, but I started looking for information on how to save my marriage. There is a lot of stuff out there that is just psychological mumbo jumbo. My faith is important to me, and I don’t take my vows lightly.
Dr. Baucom, I found your site, by the Grace of God, and your information has turned my marriage and my life around. I feel closer to my husband than ever before, and now God is a part of our marriage. We still have more to go, but we will make it! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!"?
Let’s face it: marriage is a challenge! There is no way around that. But it is a challenge with enormous payoffs in the end. That is God’s plan. Marriages teach us to be better Christians, if we allow it.
Unfortunately, too many times, we take the easy way out. That has been my frustration for many years. I have seen couple after couple end their marriage for the wrong reason.
This led me on a journey to discover what marriage was about, from a Biblical perspective, and how to use a person’s Christian faith to bring the marriage back together.
My first discovery was that modern psychology was exacerbating the problem! While attempting to help, psychology was doing great harm to marriages. In fact, the statistics were appalling. Did you know that less than 50% of marriages that go to therapy stay together? And only 10-20% of people in marital therapy report any improvement.
Imagine that: you go to a doctor, and he tells you that you need surgery. But you have less than a 50/50 chance of survival. And if you do survive, only a 10 to 20% chance of improving. Who in their right mind would go through with surgery? Yet many, many couples end up in therapy each year. And when therapy doesn’t help, they decide that the marriage must really be over.
I knew there had to be better answers. . . and there were, right there in my Christian beliefs. I just had to take those beliefs, use them in real practice, and create a practical approach that is founded in faith.
For over 17 years, I have worked to discover, practice, and perfect this approach. Now, I am ready to offer this to… Read more…